The Little Blue Book

2. GIVE OF YOURSELF The simple act of giving makes us feel great about ourselves. We’ve surely all smiled in expectation, and felt the accompanying warm flush of happiness, when watching someone peel the wrapping from a gift we’ve given them. But it’s more than the giving of gifts, it’s in giving service, in acts of generosity, and in sacrificing ourselves to do something for someone else. This is at the core of real happiness. And being happy, feeling that we have a meaningful life, is among the best defences against depression, anxiety, substance-use disorders and mental ill-health. The act of giving, of selflessness, is a basic human need. To serve others gives purpose and meaning to our lives and sits at the heart of our humanity and the community we share. It gives us emotional connection and helps us feel that we belong. “We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.” Winston Churchill (British wartime Prime Minister) 3. BE THE BEST PARENT YOU CAN BE It’s true; your family is good for your mental health (even when they’re driving you up the wall). For your mental health, making time for your family, mucking around with your kids and feeling part of the lives of your loved ones is about the best thing you can do – and not only for your resilience, but for theirs also. But it takes effort, and it needs time. For those of us with busy lives that means ‘making’ time to kick-back with your family. While you might feel you’re indispensable at work, you’re not. But, be the best parent you can be, and you will be indispensable to those who love you and indispensable to their health and happiness. It is simply true that having caring supportive loving relationships strengthens mental resilience and psychological health. (And, sure, it can be harder if the family is separated. But, with generosity of spirit, love for your children and a commitment to being a positive role model in the way you manage yourself in difficult circumstances, you can work that out.) So, give of yourself. Get involved with your community, help out when you can, look for opportunities to give help, to share your energy, and to put your enthusiasm and compassion to work. RECOGNISING DEPRESSION, ANXIETY, AND OTHER DISORDERS 116