South Eastern Sydney Local Health District Bereavement Information 40 Tell your child what to expect If the death of a person means changes in your child’s life or routine, explain what will happen. We can help prepare children for events that will happen and allow children to join in rituals like viewings, funerals, or memorial services. Tell them ahead of time what will happen. For example, “Lots of people who loved Grandpa will be at the funeral. We will sing and talk about grandpa’s life. People might cry and hug. You can stay near me and hold my hand.” It can also help to ask the child if they would like a role at the funeral. Having a small, active role can help children feel part of things and help them to cope. They might like to read a poem, pick a song to be played, gather some photos to display, or make something. They may like to place an object or flower on the coffin. Let children decide if they want to take part, and how. Help your child remember the person. In the days and weeks ahead, encourage your child to draw pictures or write down stories of the person who has died. Don’t avoid talking about the person who died. Sharing happy memories can help with grief. Tips to help children who are dealing with death When someone dies, you can help children of all ages by: • Trying to keep to a routine • Letting them know that it’s OK to play, be happy and have fun • Telling teachers or caregivers what has happened so that they support the child.
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